Question: Does normalizing mermaids, vampires, pirates etc. deteriorate their discernment?
Answer: The short answer is yes. Now, let’s look into how that happens.
Many young children’s media features mermaids and pirates, somewhere along the way in their story-line, which are innocent. These don’t necessarily have to be exempted if: 1. your children are learning something valuable (their letters or numbers or patterns for example) and 2. with these considerations: identification and desensitization.
Let’s look at some background. Mermaids are a female-human-fish hybrid in mythology. Our Heavenly Father creates in purity, not in hybrids. Further, any way the pie is sliced, mermaids and sirens are connected to a form of water spirits. Water spirits can create much damage. For information on water spirits, I recommend Kathie Walters’ teaching, click here.
Pirates, from multiple nationalities, are those individuals who took their theft to the seas. In so doing, they elevated stealing to a previously unheard of level—acquisition of national treasure—and released much destruction and trauma as a result of their rampages.
Vampires, however they are defined, are part of the death culture. It was never part of our Heavenly Father’s design to have death in our lives or on the earth. Our Father pulsates with life—He is life—and all life flows from Him. Our Lord Jesus Christ tasted death for us, and the last enemy to be put under our feet is death.
Identification and Desensitization
A plot to ensnare our children is to make evil and darkness look beautiful. That’s actually iniquity, Isaiah 5:20.
If your young child watches decent programming, and there’s a passing mermaid or pirate in the story line, it will be fine.
However, if your child, no matter the age, develops a fascination with mermaids, pirates, and especially vampires, that’s a warning sign. What your child watched, read or heard is being received by your child, and the receiving can start the road to identification.
Webster’s Dictionary defines identification as “a largely unconscious process whereby an individual models thoughts, feelings, and actions after those attributed to an object that has been incorporated as a mental image.”
Because it’s largely unconscious, the danger in identification with anyone or anything other than our Lord Jesus Christ is that we become one with it, and that is an open door to allow the dark and dirty spirits that were in it to flow into us.
Identification with their Heavenly Father through the Lord Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit causes your child’s gifts–including discernment–to activate and grow. Identification with anything else will block their gifts’ growth at best.
Another important consideration is desensitization. Innocent, occasional mermaid or pirate characters (even that seemingly innocent vampire on Sesame Street) on young children’s media give way to media for older children and teens that portray such variations as really good-hearted kids who have a “gift” of the supernatural– except that kind of supernatural is the dark kind, filled with witchcraft. (Note: Consider the source. What is the source of their supernatural gift? If it’s through the Lord Jesus Christ, it’s pure. If not, it’s not.)
Your Supernatural Children
Your children, from the moment of their conception, are supernatural. They are spirit and eternal–“super,” if you will. They are also natural—or physical human beings with biology. It’s their God-given design to see, to know and to interact with their Heavenly Father and the spirit realm. In fact, they have already interacted with the spirit realm because they are eternal and their angels, who’ve been with them from conception, are in constant communication with the Heavenly Father, Matthew 18:10.
Your older child or teen may vehemently defend these teen “supernatural heroes of sorts” because: 1. identification 2. desensitization and/or 3. they know teens (and children) are supposed to have supernatural gifts that save the day.* It’s our Heavenly Father’s design that children, tweens and teens have supernatural gifts that can save the day—and that is eternal spirit knowledge in your child, tween or teen.
As the gatekeepers for our children, it’s important for parents (and caregivers) to be aware of the dangers of identification and desensitization.
Yet, that’s not the end game.
Purity and Sensitivity
The point is to protect the purity of their hearts, a good portion of which is through the eyes and ears. The reason it’s so easy for babies and little children to interact with their Heavenly Father, their personal angels and the spirit realm is because they are pure. It’s true, that as part of the human family, they do have Adam’s sin nature. However, with so little life experience and personal transgressions, their hearts are open and pure.
It’s to these that the Father reveals, speaks, and interacts so easily and deeply, Matthew 5:8.
Our objective is to be the gatekeepers of their purity and their sensitivity for these are their pathways to our Heavenly Father and to their good future.
Due to the nature of certain gifts that our Heavenly Father gives, some little ones are seeing a greater degree of dark spirits in real life, whether or not they are telling you about it. Gifts such as discernment, watchmen, seers and warriors will experience a higher level of seeing and/or feeling dark spirits. All the gifts, callings, offices, spiritual treasures, etc. that our Heavenly Father gives a person are in him/her from conception. That doesn’t mean that these gifts and callings are full and mature yet, but it does mean they are present and operative.
For all children, and especially for those who have these soldier-style gifts, it’s so important for them to be: 1. nurtured in the love and goodness of their Heavenly Father and 2. kept separate from media that presents evil or darkness with a “beautiful” side and 3. taught that there’s no goodness or beauty in our Heavenly Father’s ancient enemy.
Circles in Your Kingdom Center
Our families are families, yes, but they are also micro-churches and Kingdom centers.
In the context of the 24/7 work of parenting and with the gatekeeping role we have, there are amazing benefits to paying the price to invest and to guard our children. These create an atmosphere where their supernatural gifts and callings grow, and those benefit us as well! Our Father is The Giver, and as part of His family, our families also engage in the circle of giving and receiving.
Tom and Jan** knew that it was an uphill swim against the cultural flow to nurture their children with open and pure hearts to the Heavenly Father. Yet, they were committed to that process. They did not know when their son, Tommie, was young that he had the gift of discernment; they just knew it was difficult to go places because of his seemingly disproportionate reactions. They kept going forward with perseverance and with prayers to learn how to continue to nurture Tommie and to live more easily, yet still protecting his purity and sensitivity, in a culture that seems to celebrate darkness. To that end, the couple poured much into spending time with Tommie to help him feel secure, minimized which battles to fight, kept media to a minimum, and invested their free time into spiritual learning and growth. When Tommie could communicate with them, they learned that he’d been seeing dark spirits from the time he was very young. The couple was thrilled to learn that Tommie completely knew the difference between his Heavenly Father, His angels, and the darkness. The Heavenly Father often revealed to Tommie the dark spirit or root behind a situation that was hidden to his parents. They spent the time, at personal cost, to invest in nurturing Tommie and protecting his purity, and his gift of discernment often discovered answers from the Heavenly Father to their prayers.
Prayer for You
Father, thank You for these parents and caregivers and the specific, unique, amazing, supernatural children You’ve entrusted to them with Your vast wisdom and for Your magnificent purposes. I’m asking You to grant greater grace, courage, wisdom, strength, energy, renewal, angelic help, and the specific plan of action to gatekeep and to nurture their children 1. from identification with anything other than You, 2. with and in purity and sensitivity, and 3. in their specific gifts, callings, design and offices. Father, unlock and activate what they need to be replenished themselves and to invest what their child needs at each stage. Father, grant them anticipation for the great good that You’ve sent to their family through their child and cause them to experience the fulfillment of seeing harvest of their labors of love. Restore and do much more in the mighty name of the Lord Jesus Christ, amen.
Because your children are supernatural, they do crave the epic and the supernatural. There are two clean sources that I recommend which are clean nourishment and help them discern between clean and dirty in the supernatural realm.
C.S. Lewis’ The Chronicles of Narnia – books, audio books or DVDs (It is not recommended for young children to watch the DVDs, due to their intensity, and even portions of the audio books for the same reason. However, reading those books is great for almost all ages.)
Email us your specific question about specialized concepts for nurturing the spirits of your children and assisting their growth so that they can go with God, and go for the gold in the race of their own life, and we’ll put yours in the queue.
by Crystal Wade, copyright 2019
*If you realize that your children are entangled, and know that they will fight your changing what they’re watching, then spend some time in repentance to the Father for allowing those doors to be opened. Be honest about your angst, grief and regret, and lack of knowledge. Ask forgiveness on behalf of your child, and confess their sins in these matters. Dedicate those places in you and in your child back to the Father, washed with the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, and filled with His Spirit.
Tell the Father you are entrusting your child to Him, and ask Him to convict your child about the specifics, and remove their desire for it.
Play worship music and/or the Bible in your child’s room, and where that media was watched, when your child is not at home.
Keep your peace. The Father will direct you—to wait for your child to have a change of heart or to open a time to address it.
** Names have been changed.