How do I pray for my child who’s experiencing a generational pattern that I’ve been delivered from?

Question:  How would you begin praying for one of your children whom you see being affected by something like generational anguish, sorry, angst, and suffering? I’m asking as I was delivered from this generational pattern but see it still operating in the life of my child.

Answer:  First, well done on overcoming a generational pattern and then recognizing it in your child! All of us are affected by generational patterns (together with traumas and iniquities), but by and large, most don’t recognize and continue to stay in it.

The great news is that because you’ve overcome this “mountain,” it will be more like “hiking” to bring your children out of this old place and into His new place. It is much easier!

Prayer Guide

Go to Father in a focused time of prayer. (He will show you different aspects to address as you make time to meet Him.)

Confess your family’s sins in these matters, and those committed from these traumas. (The reason you want to pray for your whole family (spouse and all your children) is because generational patterns are family viruses. Everyone is “infected” to some degree though they may not present “symptoms” as this one child.)

Ask the Father to wash those places to the core to Adam with the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, sprinkle His blood on their conscience, wash them with His water, pour His healing oil into the wounds, fill them with His Holy Spirit, and rebuild them.

Ask that what you prayed through, worked through, overcame to be instated on their behalf.

Decree that their sins are forgiven, their debts are released.

Ask the Father to seal all this by the power of His Holy Spirit and rearguard it with His glory, and shield them while they heal, releasing as many angels as it takes to war for and minister to them.


After you’ve worked through this on the spiritual level for your family, using the above as a prayer guide, there will be a release. You will feel a load lifted from your spirit and also in your family’s atmosphere. Yay!

Then, comes the time of your partnership with the Holy Spirit in the rebuild process. Patterns, especially generational ones, are deeply ingrained in the brain and behavior process. You will notice good forward motion after the intercession work, but there will still be a time of keeping your antennae up for those brain and behavior responses in your child which need to be adjusted and re-aligned that you’ll recognize, having climbed that mountain and overcome it yourself.

Apply love and truth in various ways.

1.Defensive application. When your child “flares” up, decree quietly (or in other room), “Your sins are forgiven and your debts are released.” Bless him/her as you call him/her into alignment with Father’s purposes. As he/she calms, take that opportunity to move to reconciliation. That’s your “moment” to show mercy, which is love, and speak whatever Holy Spirit gives you, which is truth. That “moment” of recovery is rebuilding—those brain and behavior responses are being adjusted and re-aligned by your spirit-first response.

2.Offensive application. Pray and dedicate your plan of a special time with your child to the Father, asking for extra grace, time, energy and a holy communication between you two. Do something kind with time that speaks your child’s language. A drive, a walk, a coffee date, something and someplace with just you two. Pour out the love and goodness on this child. As you sense the openness and timing of Holy Spirit, ask if your child feels this way or that way (you’ll know what to ask)? Share your understanding of that particular trouble, and about the “mountain” you climbed and overcame with respect to age-appropriateness. Let your child know you are praying for him/her, and this didn’t start with him/her, but he/she will overcome. Your child knows the burden and trouble this is, but it feels so personal that he/she has already made vows and judgments in these matters against him/herself. Sometimes, a huge forward motion comes in being heard, understood, and discovering that it was beyond them (as in, not originating in them, and thus so personal, because it already feels super personal). Always, you are on his/her side, even when one or both of you is tired and/or fussy!

Gold Medalist

Your child (family) is in a privileged position because you’re an overcomer and are using your Gold Medalist skills to assist their training. Everyone is called by Father to overcome specifics from their generations—and then to move into much more, including their own destiny and inheritance. He’s called us to be more than overcomers, Romans 8. This starts by overcoming specifics we’ve received from our generations. The younger the overcoming starts, the higher and faster our children go into their destiny! Your child is overcoming young, thanks to you, and will be rocketed forward, thanks to Father!


Daily Cleanser is a turbo-booster for individuals and families. Even children sin, and the sin junks up and starts patterns that become more difficult to break, or adjust, later. Playing the Daily Cleanser nightly, or weekly, for your family makes a huge difference. After listening nightly, children, teens and adults awaken refreshed. What seemed to be a mountain that couldn’t be overcome yesterday begins to shrink to the molehill it is today!

Crystal Wade, copyright 2020

About thelivinghopeblog

Crystal and Stephen Wade, owners of Hope Streams, received a commission from the Father to connect the generations to Him and to each other so that they can: Start well. Live well. Recover well. Build well. Finish well. As part of that commission, they release materials to assist people of all ages in connecting to The Perfect Parent. The couple carries the Father's passion to position the next generation to be grounded in His truth and love so they can fly in the Spirit. To that end, their family launched Let’s Wade In, a media portal, which is both a community for children, tweens and teens to be mentored and a tool for parents and caregivers to anchor students in truth and love so they can fly in the Spirit. They have three wonderful sons.
This entry was posted in Honored Parents Q&A and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s