REPAIR the Generations, CHANGE the World

Who do you admire? Why do you admire him/her/them? What can you learn from them?

I’ve always admired the pioneers. Laura Ingalls Wilder and Almanzo Wilder and the men and women like them.

I love their integrity, goodness of character, commitment to honor their word, resourcefulness, determination, fruitfulness, patience, joy, and thankfulness in the face of few material goods. They managed to have a greater quality of life than do our generations with hyper-abundance of goods, though they possessed less quantity of goods.

The pioneer generation’s children and teens played a pivotal role in the processes of life by necessity. The fields had to be plowed; the stock fed; clothes sewn; gardens tended and preserved OR the family would not survive.

In that environment, even with less time for nurture, the children grew up:

  1. Learning the processes (wheat planting to harvest to milling to baking to eating bread)
  2. Participating in the processes (working)
  3. Knowing the value they brought to the table by their work (seeing the product)
  4. Enjoying the due harvest of their labor (eating the bread)
  5. Carrying confidence gained by their knowledge and experience into adulthood by virtue of these years of “preparation” through the processes (they were prepared by real life with their families, not entertained through real life with their families).

The Greatest Generation was raised on these processes–a generational impact of the pioneers’. The Greatest Generation defeated global despots and preserved global freedom. Though many had already left farm life in America, culture still held largely to those values and virtues. These, then, were the cloth from which the Greatest Generation was cut. What an honorable international, eternal tapestry they created!

When we consider that feet, horses, and wagon-types, all on the ground, were the mode of transportation from earth’s beginning until the early 1900s—then fast forward to World War I and II with increasingly complex aircraft in the skies, the reality of a rapidly changing world landscape is clearly visible.

In times of rapid acceleration, it can feel like everything’s been turned upside down, when actually the good news is: It’s the DAWN of a new day!

Sunrise HopeTwo generations fought in world wars with scarcely room to breathe and to recover from trauma before their children, the Baby Boomers, jumped in, head first, to a social revolution.

There’s always been, and always will be, a generation gap from one generation to the next.

It’s actually part of the Father’s design as He commissioned parents to make it better for their children, and for the children to honor their parents, take what was given, and build it bigger.

We find ourselves in a similar time of rapid acceleration where it also can feel like everything’s been turned upside down. The good news is: It’s the DAWN of a new day!

The advent of accessible global Internet and rapid advance of technology created: social media and global culture. These, too, can be used for social revolution—which can be good—if the freedom and change are backed by values and virtue.

Freedom and change are the desire of teens and young adults—who have “learned” less failure and less fear by virtue of their shorter lives. This is a good thing! They have energy and zeal to bring national and international victory—think David and his showdown with Goliath.

They need mentors and trainers who believe in who Father created them to be.

(The first mentors and trainers are: parents and grandparents.)

Values and virtue are the gold coinage of the parents and grandparents—who, if they will look beneath the surface of the current generation gap, will find children, teens, and young adults in search of answers. Very similar to the questions they had in their younger days, though with different cultural expressions. Who am I? Why am I here? Help me find something worth fighting for. Something worth building.

How do we bridge this gap?
How do we repair the generations?
How do we recover values and virtue while embracing freedom and change? How do we keep hope and build when culture no longer backs up our values and virtue?

If we’ll roll up our shirtsleeves and get to work (praying, mentoring, training, whether we – or they – like it right now or not), we’ll reap a harvest of a generation(s) who’s empowered and ready to take the freedom and rapid change with virtues and values and CHANGE THE WORLD in ways that seemed impossible in the past.

. . .to be continued.

By Crystal Wade, copyright 2017

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REVOLUTION!

Ready, Set, GO!

“It’ll be a task. There’s a good deal of darkness. Many families are in difficulties; the students need a lot of attention. But. You can do it. You are anointed. We will help,” he spoke to us with contagious confidence and joy.

“Youth ministry is family ministry, honey. Remember that,” she continued.

That conversation with Norman and Beverly Coad marked the starting gate through which Stephen and I entered youth ministry.

Learn Well, Lead Well

True to their word, they did help–whole-heartedly.

It took an hour (one way) to get to church, and we were expecting our first son. Beverly opened their home and cooked lunch, offering spiritual and physical hospitality so we could rest between church services.

During those lunches, we learned so much from their marriage, ministry, wisdom and experience.  We were keenly aware of our need to learn in order to lead well.

They mentored us, as we mentored the students. (Both sets of our parents also poured into our ministry, a chief way being prayer support and debriefing sessions.)

Three generations worked together.

What Pleases the Lord

Norman and Beverly donated a really cool sound system to the student ministry. The students enjoyed it. We employed sound to help diffuse their energy as they entered the building, and then to refocus their energy on the Lord before teaching commenced.

To our dismay, one afternoon we discovered the student building in disarray and the sound system missing (stolen). The students were angry. They felt violated. Stephen stayed with them, and I went searching for Beverly.

“You need to give it to them (whoever took it),” answered Beverly after hearing the situation. Surprised, I stared at her. “They stole it–you give it to them. Don’t hold it, give the Lord room to work,” she counseled.

We wanted to lead the students to respond in a way that would please the Lord, so I relayed Beverly’s counsel to the students.

At first, they vented their frustration and protests. Then, they agreed that YES they did want to respond in a way that would please the Lord.

Together, we prayed and released the item, and blessed the person.

All Good, No Bad!

Within a short period of time, church leadership discovered the young man who took the sound system. His life was full of difficulties.

The counsel Beverly gave us–which we led the students to follow–released spiritual motion which caused him to be found and dealt with in a redemptive way rather than pain upon pain.

Further, we were able to purchase a new, updated sound system through the student budget which had grown.

Just like our Heavenly Father’s actions, these actions, guided by wisdom from our mentors, released ripple effects that were all good, with no bad.

Still Burning Bright

Before moving to Texas, Norman and Beverly served as missionaries. They continued to carry a burning desire to see the Lord Jesus Christ enthroned in the hearts of people to such an extent that families and land are transformed.

A big key to harvest is three generations working together. The wisdom and experience of the grandparents. The desire and resources of the parents. The zeal and energy of the teens, tweens and children (at its zenith in this stage of life!).

Our students entered revival. Spiritual renewal and awareness abounded; salvations and baptisms abounded. It was an exciting time.

Revival is great–but for real change to happen in the culture, it has to be sustained beyond the initial emotional response (which is good, too, we just have to keep going). That work is stewarded by staying in a place of personal repentance and continual prayer. A PLACE to go to develop what’s been released by the Holy Spirit is key too. (Stay tuned for MORE on that below!)

We experienced their faith, work in the Lord, love, and steadfast hope in this direction. It sparked in us–and inspired us. We considered how hard the work is to “plow the fields” for harvest and NOT see what you are hoping for, for years on end.

And yet. . .to continue on. Regardless. In hope.

“We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.” Hebrews 6:12

Kingdom Promised!

We have been promised His Kingdom–our Lord Jesus Christ started the Revolution to His Kingdom. He said that the time would come when there would be a people who would do greater works than He did.

Anyone with spiritual sensitivity has felt it–the sense that something is ‘afoot.

Let Father’s REVOLUTION begin!

Let each generation RISE to its place!

Let the Abraham generation keep their faith burning bright! Let the Isaac generation lean in to their wisdom, and be the bridge! Let the Jacob generation hear in their spirits the sound of love and wisdom and respond!

The greatest days are not behind–the greatest days are ahead!

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To that end, our family launched Let’s Wade In. A community for students and a tool for parents, grandparents and caregivers to share their faith with the next generation. We’re investing NOW so that when the “Joshua generation is gone, the children can carry on. STRONG.”

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Prayer Response

Father, thank you so much for the faith and patience of the grandparents (the Abraham generation). Thank you for their labor in the Lord. Grant them youth renewal and the release of what they’ve desired and hoped for in you, according to your covenant (Psalm 103:5).

Father, thank you for the desire and resources of the parents (the Isaac generation). Grant them greater grace so they can have energy and resources available (beyond making a living) for connection and nurture as You lead.

Father thank you for the energy and zeal of the children, tweens and teens who have such an amazing purpose as You chose this time in history to send them to earth (the Jacob generation).

Connect the generations, Father. Heal. Restore. Renew. Anoint them. Grace the divine alignments between the three generations, as You lead, so that keys to harvest are released. Grace them in such a way that wisdom, resources and energy are connected to pull in the harvest. We desire that room for Your Spirit is sustained so that we can move from revival to transformation.

Father, what has been is not working.

Let YOUR revolution begin, as led by Your Holy Spirit, as enthroning our Lord Jesus Christ, as assisted by the prayers of the faithful in generations standing with You in Heaven, as aided by Your mighty angels, as effected on earth by the three generations connected and working together.

And cause this to ripple onward beyond what we can ask or think, preparing the way for the Lord, as His kingdom expands and fills the whole earth, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, amen.

About the author

Stephen & Crystal Wade 3-27-16 cropCrystal Wade writes to throw out a lifeline of hope for people to receive connectivity to trust the Father and be internally aligned to relate to Him, and thus receive His relationship and the blessings that naturally flow from Him. She is managing editor of Hope Streams.net.

Crystal and her husband Stephen received a commission from the Father to connect the generations to Him and to each other so that they can: Start well. Live well, Recover well, Build well, and Finish well. As part of that commission, they release materials to assist people of all ages in connecting to The Perfect Parent. The couple carries the Father’s passion to position the next generation to be grounded in His truth and love so they can fly in the Spirit. To that end, their family launched Let’s Wade In, a media portal, which is both a community for children, tweens and teens and a tool for parents and caregivers to anchor students in truth and love so they can fly in the Spirit. They have three wonderful sons.

About the Coads

coad-beverly[1]Dr. Norman Coad, and his wife Beverly, were directed by our Father to settle in Texas after their missionary work. Our Father told him that to be here when “it” [the move of God] broke out. To this end, they have been working for years. Dr. Coad has released a ground-breaking book The Divided Soul, based on years of field work as guided by the Holy Spirit in family therapy. It provides real tools to assist people who are called, as well as trained professionals, to work with the Holy Spirit to bring real healing to real (complex and embedded) issues inside the soul.

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Fragrance and Food (Part 2)

Another woman smelled flowers in the room when her husband practiced reading verses from the Old Testament in Hebrew.  In spite of his lack of proficiency in the Hebrew language, his desire and attempt to honor God by studying and practicing the original language unlocked the fragrance of the knowledge of Christ in their home.  His wife, who has a strong fragrance component, detected the fragrance of a variety of sweet-smelling flowers as he read!

One mature intercessor becomes extremely physically ill when she smells odors such as pesticides.  When a dwelling, piece of land, or city emits a noxious physical odor, there may well be a fragrance portal hidden beneath the stench since the enemy strategically attempts to destroy God’s original intent for land and cities as well as for people.

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This explains why people with a (strong) fragrance calling have such a strong reaction to smells.  If your child reacts very strongly to a physical stench, that is an indicator that he  or she possesses a robust fragrance component.  Again, stay tuned in, acknowledge this unique facet God is revealing in your child, and bless it.  Together, parents and children can dialog about Scriptures containing fragrances.  Spices used in Ancient Israel are available for purchase through the Internet.  It may be fun to test together which smells either draw or repel the child.

That brings us to the following observation.  It appears that people with a fragrance calling often have a food calling.  This may account for a percentage of our picky eaters!  (Obviously, there will be a variety of physical factors in the mix here.)  Again, acknowledging this fragrance (and even food) design in your child’s spirit as a gift from God, blessing it, and calling it into righteous alignment can begin to unlock a desire in your child to try different, healthy foods.

(excerpt from “Spirit Components–Recognizing & Nurturing” in Perfect Peace by Crystal Wade, 2010)

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Fragrance and Food (Part 1)

Time began in a garden.  Herbs, plants, trees, flowers, and fruits with hundreds of diverse and beautiful fragrances filled the atmosphere.  Later in history, God chose aromatic spices to create the sacred anointing oil used in the Tabernacle of Moses.  The altar of incense was to burn before Him continuously.

Scripture presents different names of the Lord Jesus Christ, the Messiah, in floral terms.  He is the Lily of the Valley and the Rose of Sharon.  Lilies and roses emit lovely fragrances.  Spices are mentioned repeatedly in Song of Solomon which does, on one symbolic level, allude to Messiah as the Bridegroom.

The purpose of the fragrance calling is written in 2 Corinthians 2:14-16:  “But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him.  For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing.  To the one we are the smell of death; to the other, the fragrance of life.”  (bold, mine)

The fragrance calling in the land or through our spirits releases knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Physically speaking, certain perfumes or smells can draw us to a person or to a meal.  Smells bypass our rational minds and current time, transporting us to another time and place in our memory—Grandma’s house with its fragrant home-cooked meals, the fort in the woods as a child, or Daddy’s workshop.  The fragrance calling in our spirits has this potential—to bypass the mind and the time of pre-believers and to draw them to the Son of God, Christ Jesus.

On the other hand, we will repel the forces of darkness and workers of iniquity with the smell of life upon us.  And, we will be repelled by the stench of death on them.  For example, some video games with violent and/or occult content can emit smells of death.  A young person does not have to play the game to determine its wickedness; his or her spirit can “smell” its defilement which marks it as a tool of the enemy.  This whole dynamic may occur by physically smelling an odor or fragrance, or it may occur when our spirits “pick up” the spiritual smell in the background whether or not we are consciously aware of its presence.

When a team discerned a fragrance portal (door) in the land on which one intercessor’s home stood, the team maximized this discovery by intentionally planning strategy meetings there (after they had cleansed and dedicated it to the glory of the Lord Jesus Christ).  They wanted to understand the knowledge of Christ and to extend that knowledge through their intercessory work.

. . .to be continued.

(excerpt from “Spirit Components–Recognizing & Blessing” in Perfect Peace by Crystal Wade, 2010)

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Pulse Time – Creative Flow, part 2

Most jobs are linear.  School is linear with cyclical interactions.  Some jobs, like filming a movie, are pulse.  While each parent and child has a way God wired him or her to respond to time, each of us must interact in all the different modes of time.  It is helpful to recognize the time response God has imprinted in our spirits as well as our children’s, and to make adjustments when necessary.

Linear people need to remember that everyone else may not function as optimally on a set schedule as they do.  And, sometimes, they will have to shift into high gear to accomplish a pulse project.  Cyclical people will have to embrace some linear schedules in their lives.  An example of maximizing the cycles of the day in teaching is tying shoes!  For instance, when attempting to teach your child how to tie his or her shoes in the afternoon, you may both end the session frustrated.  Don’t view such things as failures.  Try again at a different time.  Maybe your child learns better in the morning.  Experiment, be flexible, and make adjustments until you discover how you and your children are wired and what works best in your family!

There is a time for war and a time for peace.  Both cannot be accomplished at the same time.  Nehemiah pushed the people—and some undoubtedly functioned as linear and cyclical in relation to time—into a pulse creative cycle to rebuild Jerusalem’s war-torn wall in 52 days.  When it was finished, he led the people to stop, to rest, to eat, to savor and to celebrate their progress.  The linear and cyclical people experienced a stretch to complete such a large job on such a tight schedule.  The pulse people needed to celebrate and to transition back into normal life in order to prevent burn-out.  Nehemiah successfully mentored an entire community of people to function at a higher level of intensity.  Then, he transitioned the people out of the crisis, through celebration, back into the normal flow of life.  Nehemiah was a leader extraordinaire.

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Pulse-spirited children especially need guidance from their parents to moderate the intensity of their creative bursts.  Parents can help them learn to quit and to return to the project after they take a break, eat, and sleep.  When parents “legitimize” this God-given need to take care physically, even during a pulse creative burst, it will release the children from the load of intensity they carry and equip them to shift from spirit-based activity to proper care for their physical bodies.  Do not assume they will learn this without instruction.  They will not.  These children live at such an internal intensity during these pulse times that without their parents’ training them to operate in boundaries and self-control during the pulses and to stabilize after the pulses, they will burn-out, suffer depression, or even end their lives prematurely through addictions, suicide, or sickness induced from lack of proper physical care.  Also, parents need to help the pulse child transition from the completion of a big creative project by celebrating its completion, by resting afterwards, by stabilizing to a more linear schedule, then by looking ahead in anticipation to the next “pulse” God will send.  These steps are keys to preventing a child from dissolving into a time of purposelessness which leads to depression.

If your children’s spirits are pulse-based in relation to time, ask God for wisdom in how to train them to use constraints in their physical life without squelching their creative flow.  Parents need to recognize these pulse times and to help transition their children back to linear life without their sinking into depression.

Stay tuned in to your children, experiment, be flexible, and learn together what works best in your family!

(excerpt from “Spirit Components: Recognizing & Nurturing” in Perfect Peace by Crystal Wade, 2010)

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Pulse Time – Creative Flow

Observations have shown that God imprinted different time responses which reflect His nature in the human spirit. They are: linear, cyclical and pulse.

Great creative geniuses throughout history most often functioned in relation to time as pulse.

Everyone has creativity; everyone has a time when they go into “pulse.” But the pulse-based high level spirit creatives who are called to release amazing gifts to the world can bottom out after a super-intense creative pulse. This is because they are so in tune and in flow with their spirit and the spirit realm that they can push too hard and find it difficult to return to a steady place where there’s room to balance out their souls and bodies again. (That’s why we need loving and perceptive parents–and if we didn’t have those, we have a loving and perceptive Heavenly Father!)

Let’s look at some profiles. And then consider our children.

David Brainerd, missionary to the Indians in North America, covered a lot of ground physically and spiritually, and died of exhaustion at age 29.  William Wilberforce, the great social justice advocate, whose life’s work completely stopped the slave trade in the United Kingdom through the legal system instead of war, suffered extreme physical pain and almost died from exhaustion due to the intense spiritual burden he bore.  Sir Isaac Newton, one of the greatest scientific minds of all time, continued to stretch his physical limits researching, developing, and writing without sleeping or eating for days after his mother’s death.  This pulse creative cycle and internal intensity, coupled with the lack of being taught the legitimacy of personal boundaries and self-control in physical areas such as resting the mind, sleep, eating, and adjusting into and out of these creative cycles, precipitated a nervous break-down for Newton.  He almost died from that extended incident.

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Pulse time based people can struggle most of all if they do not understand their spirits’ God-given design.  Often with no apparent pattern, a burst of creative energy will propel them to stay up late at night and arise early, dogged to catch the wave of creativity and to finish a product (song, invention, writing, research, etc.) while they are “in the flow.”  After that specific creative burst is complete, they may collapse, exhausted from the intensity of their creativity and determination, and lack of sleep and proper nutrition.  Then, feeling without direction or purpose since completing their project with intensity (combined with exhaustion), they can fall prey to depression.  Of course, pulse time is not intended by God to end in depression.  We need understanding.

Pulse time based people parallel the Holy Spirit.  During the Old Testament, His interactions with men and women are described in the following manner, “The Spirit of the Lord came upon. . . .”  When the Holy Spirit came upon a man or woman, he or she went into a “pulse” like Elijah did when he called down fire from heaven on the altar, then killed over 400 prophets of Baal.  Then, Elijah ran some 40 miles, went into a depression when the “pulse” or Holy Spirit lifted, hid in a cave, and willed his life to end.  In the New Testament, the Holy Spirit entered in His unexpected way, as “a mighty rushing wind.”  What we need to understand is that after a pulse creative time, God grants linear time so that we can stabilize, rest, rejoice, and regroup.  Understanding that He gives this linear time as grace so we will not burn out will help avert depression.

. . .to be continued.

(excerpt from “Spirit Components-Recognizing & Nurturing” in Perfect Peace by Crystal Wade, 2010)

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Untying the Knot of Sound Frustration

Jack and Jody* had a first-born son with a sound calling who approached life with intensity.  In addition, he had the intercessory calling of burden bearing.  (The birth order of first born and only child will intensify just about everything!)  They tried to keep little Billy at peace, but their best efforts seemed to fail when their second-born child consumed the remainder of their time and energy.  Billy was frequently distressed as intense sound, and keen perception of burdens agitated him, which, in turn, distressed his stressed parents.

Often, Jack and Jody told Billy stories of his infancy and young childhood, as he enjoyed them.  Invariably, these stories included mention of his intensive wiggles and loud noises.  While they did not intentionally do so, they were communicating their frustration to Billy.

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When they learned that Billy had a sound and motion calling from God by design, Jack and Jody changed their approach.  In fact, the couple apologized to Billy for inadvertently speaking against the sound and motion design God had placed inside him.  Then, Jack and Jody verbally recognized, acknowledged, dedicated, blessed and released Billy’s sound and motion callings.  They were surprised to see tears glitter in his eyes.  At that moment, they understood that their ignorance and frustration had been communicated to Billy and further affected his behavior.  Since that time of blessing Billy’s God-given design, the whole family’s frustration level has subsided.  In addition, when they ask Billy to “tone it down” because “our ears are sensitive like yours,” he responds and calmly adjusts his decibel level.  This contrasts with his former habit of screaming in frustration or escalating in anger.

(excerpt from “Spirit Components–Keys to Healing and Blessing” from Perfect Peace by Crystal Wade, copyright 2010)

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